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I want to encourage conversation and perspectives about everything that is in the best tradition of Women and the “Sistah-Sisterhood” of African American Women particularly. However, I think that there are common experiences shared amongst All women and we can all benefit from those experiences and learn from each other, so for our non-black sistahs… there is something here for you as well. Feel free to read at your pleasure, comment, and browse book selections. Please provide suggestions for topics that you would like to see addressed on this blog or that you are experiencing in your world of the Sisterhood! Thank You for Your Support, RJ

Monday, September 28, 2009

Love Triangle...I, Me and She



As women we all travel through our lives trying to negotiate the boundaries between the I, the Me and the She, or…. more plainly…. the Mind, the Heart and the mysteriously combative alter ego between our legs and beneath our belly…the SHE as it were…ahhh…yes the womb, the cradle of life, the Garden of Eden! It’s a Love Triangle, between I, Me and She…. the battle for ideas, for dominance, and the competition for acknowledgement: The I that wants to be loved for the eye’s Delilah sensibilities, our intellect and our keen awareness and thoughtfulness. The Me that wants to be loved for her warmth, her compassion, her tenderness and her utter reluctance to forsake, or condemn, or to turn away from. The She, that simply wants to revel in the power of her sexuality, her sensuality, her captivating, charismatic hypnotism…that is her diamond treasure trove within her golden treasure chest. Yes, the I, the Me, and the She fight fiercely for the most beloved. We strategize in the best way to undermine each other. We engage in self-defeating tactics to break one leg even though we both need two legs to walk, and we grapple at one another as we try to find our way... to see our way out of the difference that is the psycho-emotional madness in between. Each of us has a strategy, the I, the Me and the She……the problem is picking the right battle plan for the right war. In the end we fear what we hate to admit most: That this battle that we are in....this triple consciousness…. this uncooperative competition that we wage, and this…… tri-lateral win/loose game between the I, the Me, and the She is the complexity of woman hood that struggles to make sense between the man we need,=the I, the man we want, = the Me, and the man we love to hate, = the She.

Yes it is him that the She alter ego most desires. The She is simple, SHE knows what she wants, when she wants it and how to get it. The She doesn’t expect anything besides the moment in time, for her life is not complicated; She just wants to be Appreciated for what She does. The I is always looking ahead, looking back.... and thinking long. The I is always in heavy contemplation, evaluating, judging, critiquing and formulating….wanting to be Valued for her wisdom and her strength. The me, that is ME, just wants to be Loved, Appreciated and Valued for who She is, for who I am...and  for who We are. Do you struggle with your Love triangle?
Justice Speaks

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